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What does it truly mean when people say you have to learn to pick and choose your battles in a relationship?

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Asked by aprilrb81 at 10:27 AM on Apr. 4, 2011 in Relationships

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  • It means if something is small then why fight? For instance you can spend your whole relationship arguing over your husband leaving his socks on the floor, or just pick them up and carry on. Is it worth any argument when in the long term its a minor issue? Is it worth the fight?

    Answer by gemgem at 10:28 AM on Apr. 4, 2011

  • It means being mature enough to compromise, and understanding that the little things really aren't worth a fight. It means accepting that your partner has flaws, and letting them go. It means that making a mountain out of a mole hill adds a point of contention in a relationship which isn't necessary... It means communicating the big things, and letting the little ones go.

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 10:29 AM on Apr. 4, 2011

  • It means don't sweat the small stuff. It means choose to "battle" over things that actually matter, not the little everyday crap that might bug you. Fighting constantly over things that aren't important will quickly erode ANY relationship you have, whether it's romantic, or parent-child, or a friendship.

    Answer by vicesix at 10:29 AM on Apr. 4, 2011

  • it means do not nag about little things
    fight about things that matter
    and fight fair

    Answer by fiatpax at 10:30 AM on Apr. 4, 2011

  • It means that if you get into it on every single thing that you both have your own opinions on, you'd constantly be fighting. You need to learn to recognize the things that are really important enough to hammer out your disagreements and come to a compromise, and which things aren't really important and you can just let him do his thing and you do yours.

    Answer by riotgrrl at 10:38 AM on Apr. 4, 2011

  • I agree with the other ladies. Save your fights for when something is really important, not trivial stuff. These things are going to be different in every relationship- what I consider trivial might be a big deal to someone else.

    Answer by lovingmy4babies at 10:42 AM on Apr. 4, 2011

  • Dont fight over hanging a shirt up wrong, or over cooking the steak...

    Answer by Nickcole23 at 12:05 PM on Apr. 4, 2011

  • well you have to think what do you want you your life well this is allgoodby

    Answer by marivel718 at 5:53 PM on Apr. 13, 2011

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