I would like to think of myself as a "tolerant" person. Although I don't like the term "tolerant". I feel that phrase suggest a mental task that causes people discomfort. I think many of the differences in culture, religion, and lifestyles is a large part of what makes our world salvageable. There are many beautiful aspects of life out there that would not be present without our differences. I've always taught my kids to learn about the individual, and not to make assumptions based on labels like "Catholic" or "Mormon" or "Wicann". I have many close friends from various backgrounds of life, and I feel my life is richer and fuller because of each differance. Now on to my question. I started hanging out with a coworker a while back. We had similar interest and her daughter is the same age as my son. We got together several times to do some crafting, hiking, and play dates with the kids. We moved away later on , but have kept in touch. She recently added me as a face book friend. I knew that when we were hanging out she was what she called a “white separatist”. Since I no little about this belief system, and I chose to get to know her as an individual there was never really any issues. She never forced her opinions, and really during our time hanging out our personal beliefs never really came up. Now that we are “face book friends” I am starting to see what it is that she believes, and it’s very ugly in my opinion. I’ve never liked the term “tolerate” but that is how I feel about her. I’m tolerating her belief. I miss the friendship we had, but am so disgusted by her belief that I know I can never look at her the same way again. In person she is very accepting of people and kind. Her face book stuff is not. She has posted articles about how blond hair, blue eyed people are smarter, and how she was at the store with her daughter and they saw a “beautiful Aryan woman” packing around a “niglet” and how she explained to her daughter that this woman may think that she is doing something good by adopting that child, but really she is just contributing to the genocide of their race.
I want to teach my children to embrace and enjoy the differences in our world, but how can I embrace this woman when she carries such hate? I’m disgusted by this woman’s words, and I don’t want my child around her or her daughter. And a large part of me feels disappointed in myself for feeling this way.
Can I really teach my children to tolerate intolerance? At some point there has to be a line drawn, right?
Asked by Anonymous at 4:59 PM on Apr. 4, 2011 in General Parenting
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