So my soon to be ex husband and I were together for 6 years. We have 2 children under 5. Our relationship was rocky from the begining. We were in two different places, and still thought we could work things out. After a while he stopped working, wouldnt babysit the kids, wouldnt take me to dinner or a movie, wouldnt have sex with me, and was on several occasions physically abusive ( I was miserable.. hanging on for my kids). So with out him knowing I found someone else. Someone who didnt want any strings attatched just a sexual relationship. My ex has no clue to this day. Although I had this relationship on the side going on it never seemed to make anything worse. It actually helped me to keep the frusteration level down in our relationship that I had an outlet. It was absoultely nothing other than sex. Later I find out that he has someone on the side as well. I dont know what they did or didnt do which coming from my side I could be angry about. I was just embarrassed because 4 of my neighbors came to me in the same day to tell on him for what they had seen. We have now been apart for 1 year filed for divorce... he refuses to sign the papers, refuses to help with kids at all, refuses to get a job so he cant be ordered to pay child support.
Since my separation I have started to date someone who I have known for a very long time and who has been so good to me. I would never feel that I need an "out let" as before. For some reason I am feeling guilty about my secret all of a sudden. I dont know why.. I am getting a divorce, dont want to be with my ex ever again, it hasnt and wont come up unless I say something. Does this make me a bad person? Why do I feel this way now? He doesnt do anything for me except give me a hard time. I dont understand...
Asked by Anonymous at 9:43 PM on Apr. 4, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by kokomaman at 9:52 PM on Apr. 4, 2011
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