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3 Bumps

What should I do?

My fiancee and I are at odds on this subject.
I want a baby so much ever since I miscarried at 15
I have always felt there was something missing but he wants to wait 1 till we are married and 2 till he gets an even more stable job.
People with less than us do it every day!
Am I being unreasonable?
What should I do?

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GuidetteInLove

Asked by GuidetteInLove at 3:49 AM on Apr. 5, 2011 in Trying to Conceive

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Answers (24)
  • you have got to be kidding me....
    iluv2meow

    Answer by iluv2meow at 3:50 AM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • how long have you been together? i think that it will happen when the time is right! as far as you loss am sorry to hear that i can only imagine how that feels =( are you and DH stable at the moment? do you feel the time is right??
    anayasmommy21

    Answer by anayasmommy21 at 3:52 AM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • it take you 9 months to give birth.. a lot can change in 9 months! if your having sex now i dont see what the point of waiting til marriage to have a baby ! imo
    3HappylKidds

    Answer by 3HappylKidds at 3:52 AM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • we have been together for a while
    getting married as soon as I get my cosmetology license
    my education is extremely important to me.
    I feel the time is right but he thinks we should wait till I graduate
    GuidetteInLove

    Comment by GuidetteInLove (original poster) at 3:55 AM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • mayb he just wants you to stay focused on your cosmetology license and him have a more stable job so that your baby can have everything and you guys wont have to struggle...i mean there is a point in life we may all struggle but he might just being trying to offer you a better life before bringing a little one into the world...make things easier for you and him..idk i could be wrong but just a thought...
    anayasmommy21

    Answer by anayasmommy21 at 3:57 AM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • personally I think he is scared not sure but I kinda think so
    GuidetteInLove

    Comment by GuidetteInLove (original poster) at 4:00 AM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • Have you talked to him about his and your feelings on the matter? I'd start there. Really get an answer. WHY is it not the right time for a baby?
    Ati_13

    Answer by Ati_13 at 4:02 AM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • have you asked him if that is how he feels scared of the thought of being a father or jsut not ready
    anayasmommy21

    Answer by anayasmommy21 at 4:02 AM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • See I try but everytime we try to talk about it he trys to have sex and I lose my thought ugh
    GuidetteInLove

    Comment by GuidetteInLove (original poster) at 4:04 AM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • dont let yourself fall into the sex...!! although it can be hard to do that....if you want an answer really make him stop and talk
    anayasmommy21

    Answer by anayasmommy21 at 4:05 AM on Apr. 5, 2011

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