My ex and I have a VERY VERY horrible parenting relationship. He has not see his kids in almost a year. He has not taken care of my kids since the day they were born (even when we were married) and basically he is a deadbeat dad!
I am re-married now, and pretty happy. We have our issues, but we are trying hard to make our marriage THAT much better. My husband and I decided we want to move back to TN to be near his children. I am soo happy about the possible move, but thats just it, a POSSIBLE move.
I am bound to this state forever, and not allowed to move with out my ex's permission.
He is making my life a living hell calling the cops, so on and so fourth, bc he just wants to start unnecessary drama- Just to get a rise out of me. (He is behind 15,000 on CS) He called the cops on Thursday bc he SUPPOSEDLY had been calling and emailing for the "past two weeks" and couldnt get ahold of me. First of all, it wasnt two weeks, its was more like he called three times, and emailed ONCE.He KNOWS if I dont answer to call my mother. And he didnt call her ONCE!! I dont see how thats two weeks?? Anyways, I have two incident cases on him, and I think Im taking him to court for harrassment. Anways long story short, he gave me crap for taking my kids on vaca w/o his permission and I left the county. I am supposed to get his permission to take them out of the county, but MY way of thinking is... "If he is not taking care of his children, why should I have to ask him anything? He is NO real father to them anyhow!!'
If he is causing drama bc I took my kids on vaca (and he never even see's them!!) how the heck am I going to get the go ahead to move?
This is how I feel. I love my husband sooo much, and I want him to be happy! I see how incomplete my husband is being far from his children, and it breaks my heart! I dont want him to feel obligated to stay in this state bc of us. I want him to be HAPPY! If that means that I would have to let him go, I am for it. Sure It will break my heart into pieces, but I could move on. I dont want to feel as though he will regret his decision in the long run..... I dont want to break our marriage, but I dont want to destroy the bond he has with his children!
He says he is staying in this state if we DONT get the go ahead from the judge ( I know I am OVER thinking, and should just wait till I get to that bridge, But I cant help myself) but I know his heart is TRULY with his kids... I dont know what to do, feel, or say... I feel so broken... I cant even begin to imagine how hard it is on my husband...
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