Hi ladies I am getting married soon and I am starting to get cold feet. I am second guessing myself an really cannot stop thinking that I might be making a mistake. If me and DF would have gotten married 2 years ago there wouldn't be a doubt in my mind that I was doing the right thing. We have been engaged for several years now and I have been looking for this day to come, but now that is so near i am scare. You see a year ago I found out that my DF was flirting with a girl for almost a year. I basically caught him and confronted him, he swears that nothing happened it was just them innocently flirting and nothing else and nothing would have happened because he loves me. The girl he was texting with even said it was innocent and nothing did happened. After I found out he broke all ties with her, he stopped calling and texting her. I a month later I see on the phone bill that he called her, I confronted him about it and he told me he never called and he even swore. The next day after me insisting it was bs and just tell me the truth he finally told me he did call her but she did not answer. My thing is how can I believe him now that nothing happened when he swore and then confess basically that he had lied. How can I be sure he is telling the truth and not hiding anything else. I have asked him several times it anything else happened, kiss, sex , etc. and he swears non of that happened. There wee times I would call him during lunch and he would not answer and I asked him was it because he was with her. He said yes and the reason he did not answer is because he did not want me to know he was with someone else. Him not answering the phone "while at lunch" with her makes me be very suspicious. They could have been having sex and he did not want me to be suspicious maybe by the way he was breathing or answering the phone.
He has changed a lot in a good way and has not given me a reason to be suspicious about his actions since the call, which is close to a year. We go out together every weekend and we talk, kiss, cuddle and have a great time together. he is doing really great. I am even trusting him a little. But in the back of my mind I cannot stop to think that he is hiding something.I don't want to get married and then find out he did sleep with her.
Any advice would be great....
PS. I have asked him but he still denies anything else went on. If you have any questions I will try to answer in the post. Thanks ladies
Asked by Anonymous at 5:00 PM on Apr. 5, 2011 in Relationships
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