Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

4 Bumps

Can you be in love with two people at once?


Answer Question

Asked by Anonymous at 7:04 PM on Apr. 5, 2011 in Relationships

Answers (20)
  • I would have to say no but thats just me !

    Answer by christinahenry at 7:05 PM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • Nope!

    Answer by NannyB. at 7:06 PM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • imo, if you think you're in love with 2 people at once, you're confused and love neither, but lust over both. i believe it's possible to care strongly for 2 people, but "in love".. no. i think you're confused unless you're involved in a polyamorous relationship.

    Answer by rAbella at 7:08 PM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • absolutely. Love isn't can definitely be attracted to/in love with more than one person at a time. Why do you think polyamory exists?

    Answer by ShainaMay at 7:08 PM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • you could love both but not be in love. to be in love totally 100% , all this love, time and energy needs to be going to that one special person. you can't serve two masters at once..

    Answer by gwen20 at 7:09 PM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • Yep. I am in the same boat. I love the guy I was dating, but also love my husband whom I recently got back together with ... as we decided to try to give it one more shot here before walking away. Am I confused? Absolutely. But I agree love isn't quantitative. And it is confusing, frustrating, wonderful, hurtful ... so many emotions combined into that one little word and HUGE emotion.

    Answer by 2BlondeBabies at 7:14 PM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • I think you can. It might be different levels of love, but you can love more than one person at the same time.

    Answer by Nanixh at 7:14 PM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • You can love lots of people, like friends and family.
    But as in " i am in love with you", no. If you feel like you are in love with 2 people, you dont know what love is. Its just infatuation. If you really loved someone, you would never want to hurt them. And loving someone else would hurt them. IMO

    Answer by Mme.Langley at 7:40 PM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • no. i think you can lust for one person while being in love with someone else. maybe that person isn't giving you something you want or need. so you get it from the other person thinking you're in love.

    Answer by xavierlogan09 at 7:52 PM on Apr. 5, 2011

  • Yes. When I was young I always foolishly thought it would be great to have 2 guys fight for me. Now, not so great. Someone gets hurt and I hate hurting people.
    You can love more then one person just like you love more then one child. It just may be a different type of love.


    Answer by mrsvixen at 7:58 PM on Apr. 5, 2011

Join CafeMom now to contribute your answer and become part of our community. It's free and takes just a minute.