ok i hate the word step-mom it makes me think of the wicked witch!! i am stop-mom to three beautiful little kids how ever i feel the word step-mom implies i am trying to take over being there mom i would much more prefer the word co-parent??? it also puts a better sound to the whole situation (spelling). becuase as co-parents we are not to take over for the real parents we are there to help parent these children and be a parent type, a friend, or something like an aunt or uncle!!
i also have a problem with step parents dis-ing on the parents i feel no matter what the problem is it should stay adult and not be said in front of the little ones!!! i also feel as co-parents we have to work five times harder for every kid involved!!! i have heard several stories that disturb me about the co-parent (woman) beating on the parent or getting in to fights this will back fire on them and make the kids disrespect the co-parent bc no matter how the parent acts the kids will defeand the parent !!! as co-parents we need to discuss the rules of parenting with are husbands or wives!!! They are the ones in charge BOTTOM LINE!
i love my step kids as much as i do my own and will never treat any of them different this may sometimes seem hard but they are all still kids blood or not and i promise to do my best this is an oath i took when i married someone with kids!!!
i also can go on and on about how i hate the mother but in the same sents i have to love her bc now i get to co-parent three amazing kids!!!! plus bc her and my husbands relationship had a huge down fall i get to have an amazing husband!!! so even through this is difcult it is improtant to see the up side of all this!!!
also a big issue i have is that when the step kids come to you and tell you all the bad stuff their parents have said about you the best way you can handle this is by saying "that everyone has there own opion and they have that right", then drop it kids are just trying to get a reaction and when they tell there parents bad things about you it is bc they know what there parent wants to hear and are trying to get them to love them more!!!
I am a very god-ly person and so i believe through love and kindness we will rasie above are situations, i have in the past not been the best co-parent to the parent this saddens me to bc i know i can do better!!! i can only hope god shows me the way to get to a place where all me and the BM can get along!!! i can not stress enough how imortant i feel it is for us to live are lives in the word of god!!!
thank you for reading!!!
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