My 18 year old step-brother commited suicide last year. He hung himself. I noticed he had changed. He wasn't acting normal, and his grades were slipping ( for a high honor roll student) He came to me and said he was feeling really down lately about a girl, an he was going to his bedroom to lay down. My mother asked me to go get him for supper, and thats when I found him.
I had completely ignored his pleads for help. In his suicide note it said "No one understand... better yet, no one cares..." I had found out that he had heard that the girl he LOVED had cheated on him, and nasty rumors were going around the school about him. I heard the rumors, but I thought it was a joke. Now as his one year anivsiry is coming around, I cant stop thinking about what went thru my head when I found him. Or all the things I heard about him.... I never did anything...
Could I have...??
Answer by bdflykisses at 8:42 PM on Apr. 5, 2011
Answer by meooma at 8:42 PM on Apr. 5, 2011
Answer by MaryMW at 8:44 PM on Apr. 5, 2011
Answer by amberpaiz at 8:45 PM on Apr. 5, 2011
Oh, honey . . . . hugs. It is soooo hard when a loved one suicides. You are experiencing something called "survivor's guilt". It always happens when someone suicides. Everyone goes back over all of the details, signs, missed opportunities, and feels guilty about "what could have been." The thing is, there is nothing you could have done to stop it. If you had known what was going to happen, you would have done something. But there was no way for you to have predicted this! There was no way. He felt helpless. That is what led him to say all of those things . . . but,. when someone feels helpless, that is how they see the world. They blind themselves to all of their loved ones. they turn down help. They can't reach out for the hand that are reaching to help them up. It has nothing to do with your love or support. It was his illness and his sorrow that took him there. Please, find peace with yourself.
Answer by ImaginationMama at 8:46 PM on Apr. 5, 2011
Answer by MrsLeftlane at 8:46 PM on Apr. 5, 2011
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Answer by lowencope at 8:47 PM on Apr. 5, 2011
tbh no you could not have help when your that depressed you cant see the way out of it and nothing anyone will say will help you just dont want to live with the pain anymore . they could have gave him drugs but even doctors who are trained in thing like this miss it most of the time how could you have known . I'm sorry it must have been really hard but its no one fault
Answer by feralkitten at 8:49 PM on Apr. 5, 2011
Answer by KyliesMom5 at 8:49 PM on Apr. 5, 2011