My boyfriend of a year and 5 months likes to leave everyday and not help take care of our 5 month old son, we have a fight about this everyday, i always tell him he would rather hang out with his friend than take care of our son, he does not hold him very long either i will give our son to him he will hold him for not even a min. and hand him back to me or give him to someone else, he wont even get up in the middle of the night to feed him and he wakes up every 2 hours.Answer Question
You need to set up a schedule with your bf that is fair to both of you. Does he work? Do you? The reason I ask, is because both a *job* and motherhood are exhausting (heck motherhood is a 24/7 job). If he does work full time, then he should be taking a *shift* when he gets home, and on his days off. Even if it's for just a hour or so. I would try to talk to him to see WHY he doesn't do it. Perhaps he's afraid? Not confident about looking after the baby? doesn't know what or how to do it? Start with say 15 minutes, and go lock yourself in the bathroom and tell him no interruptions and go have a nice long hot soak!!!
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Okay. Imagine I tell you not to get up with him, not stay home all day with your baby, and only hold him for five minutes and give him right back to his father. Okay with that being said would you need me to tell you how bad of a mom you are??? No. So, my advice is to do what you do best and he will come around. Men are stimulated from the outside and women are from within. We are able to nurture and carry a child inside of us for 9 months. We get to counsel with other moms,breastfeed, bath, and decide how other people in our world should treat our baby. It's true. He will catch up. Stop being angry and enjoy what comes natural to you. It takes most men a little longer, you'll see.
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