I have three sons; 22, 19 and 9. A few years ago, I divorced and was a single parent to the youngest two sons. My middle son was 16 at the time. He was smoking weed and stuff started disappearing from my house; 35mm cameras, jewelry and other things. My house was constantly vandalized, by his friends and him. I warned him that he'd get punished for continuing that behavior. I came home one day and it smelled like he'd burned a whole dang TREE of marijuana in my house and I had him pack his stuff up and kicked him to his dad's house. I told him that I loved him, but that if he didn't want to follow my rules, this was the consequences. I had another son at home that didn't need that kind of example. I haven't seen or heard from him since then...it's been almost three years. He lives only half a mile away and stays in contact with his dad. (Dad didn't make him finish school, so he has no diploma.) He does have two jobs, but still smokes. I miss my son and so does his brother. I call his dad all the time to ask about my son, but still no word from him.
I think you did the right thing, like you said, you couldn't have your other kids around that! I believe there will be a day when you see him again and you will build a relationship. He is probably mad at the choice you made but as he matures, he will see you did what you had to and he was in the wrong.Don't beet yourself up about it, you did what you had to at the time! I'm sure you miss him and i think he feels the same way.
Answer by anichols1 at 6:23 AM on Apr. 6, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 7:44 AM on Apr. 6, 2011
Answer by Mrsorr at 8:05 AM on Apr. 6, 2011