should the decision be left up to the child when he/she is old enough to make it, or should the bio parent that is involved and the step-parent make the decision?
for example (in my case) my 4 year old only has my husband (not bio-dad) in her life and he's been around for her since she was an infant. we got married when she was 2 and had 2 kids together. her bio-dad saw her a handful of times before her 1st birthday, then nothing except for once last year. his choice. he does pay court-ordered child support.
anyway as soon as my husband and i married i wanted to go forth with the adoption process immediately and my husband was comfortable with it also. my ex doesn't care at all, he is constantly looking for ways to get out of paying child support and has even told me before he was to sign his rights over so he doesn't have to pay. he has moved on himself, got married and his wife is pregnant with his 2nd kid. so i guess it's too much for him to contribute anything to the child he knocked me up with 4 years ago.
well i started thinking that even though my husband is a wonderful husband and father (to all 3 of our kids), a great man, takes care of us and all that jazz, maybe i should leave the decision up to her when she's older. she has my maiden name as her last name, our other kids have my husband's last name. so someday she will wonder why that is.
im just curious how others feel about step-parent adoption?
Answer by Candi1024 at 3:55 PM on Apr. 6, 2011
Answer by kimigogo at 3:58 PM on Apr. 6, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 4:06 PM on Apr. 6, 2011
Answer by zoejains_momma at 3:55 PM on Apr. 6, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 3:58 PM on Apr. 6, 2011
Answer by wendythewriter at 4:00 PM on Apr. 6, 2011
Answer by evelynwest at 4:03 PM on Apr. 6, 2011
If Bio dad doesn't have any participation in the child's life of his own free will and is willing to sign his rights away because your DH wants to raise this child...Go for it!
Answer by monshine2 at 4:11 PM on Apr. 6, 2011
Answer by jspenny2705 at 6:55 PM on Apr. 6, 2011