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Me and my bf hardly have sex. he's gone to work from about 630am to about 600pm everyday. He is obviously always tired. he takes a nap most times and he has school as soon as he gets home. so basically, he has a low sex drive. anybody have any tips??? its been so long and im desperate :/


Asked by Anonymous at 4:59 PM on Apr. 6, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (12)
  • The man is clearly exhausted and stressed out. Either one of those would cause a drop in drive, both together is like dropping a hydrogen bomb on his Man Zone. I agree with Buttercup regarding the amp up in vitamins, however, I would try and use food sources in addition to the daily supplements, and add in some Omega3 and Omega6 essential fatty acids.
    BUT...I do not agree with those who are advocating that you do some fancy tap-dancing in order to generate some spontaneous arousal. A person who is working this hard and who is this stressed out does not need additional pressure. Talk to the man, explain that you understand how hard he's working and how much you love and appreciate him, and that he should be open with you regarding if and when he's in the mood for sex, and when he is in need of simple physical comfort such as a backrub intended to relax him.

    Answer by Fistandantalus at 7:19 PM on Apr. 6, 2011

  • he is probably just worn out. Sounds like he is really working hard for the family. Just encourage him and enjoy the time you do have together. Dont nag him and go to bed naked next to him. He will probably find the energy!

    Answer by ria7 at 5:05 PM on Apr. 6, 2011

  • First you need to help him unwind, help him get his relax on. Do you know what his kinks are? Everyone has one or twelve, especially men. Dressing up in a naughty outfit, lingerie, or in an outfit you already have that always drives him crazy and let him peel you out of it. I recommended in another post in her about slipping in the shower with him and sensuously bathing each other. Tease him, walk past him as he's doing something and softly kiss his neck, slide past in front of him and let your butt briefly rub his crotch. Just little hints to let him know what you have on your mind, then walk away and flash him a smile, lick your lips, or giggle. Keep trying until he gets the idea to follow you back to the bed.

    Answer by pinwheel at 5:13 PM on Apr. 6, 2011

  • Set aside a date night every couple of weeks. Talk it over and put it on the calendar. You do not have to go out but it is your planned time to be with each other.

    Answer by elizabr at 5:04 PM on Apr. 6, 2011

  • First, get him a good multi-vitamin and vitamin B complex. Then, I think the date night and laying by him naked are good ideas.

    Answer by BUTTERCUP777 at 5:15 PM on Apr. 6, 2011

  • Set the alarm earlier than usual. Men are horny in the morning. Take advantage of that morning wood!

    Answer by Nicoles2LilRams at 7:10 PM on Apr. 6, 2011

  • you can go masturbate or you can just get on him and do it yourself. if he's tired all the time and is always busy, then you're going to have a tough time getting any. you could also just get naked and get his attention. maybe that will make him participate.

    Answer by febmom007 at 5:02 PM on Apr. 6, 2011

  • Maybe you should join him for a nap or maybe set the alarm for some much needed nookie what guy is going to say no to that dress up even strip anything can help.

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 5:04 PM on Apr. 6, 2011

  • Wake him up with a blow job or at somoe random time when he seems like he's in a good mood. It shows that ur interested and he'll probably think ur the best gf in the world. Men are simple creatures. The less talking about it sometimes the better.

    Answer by Bugzmomma at 5:09 PM on Apr. 6, 2011

  • maybe you could get naked and jump him. or just take a nap with him but the good kind.

    Answer by xavierlogan09 at 6:08 PM on Apr. 6, 2011