OK , My best friend, we'll call her "Jane", is engaged to this guy we will call him "brad". Brad and I went to school together. Freshman year he asked me to homecoming. I assumed he thought we were going as friends. I, being stupid, hadn't seen itanyother way at the time. But my best friend at the time "sally'(who was older) had her baby the night before homecoming and I forgot all about it. I even forgot to call Brad. We ll Brad and I stopped talking. He wouldn't even let me exsplain.
Brad and Jane met 5years ago. Brad wouldn't even come around or talk to me until 2 yrs ago. He still held a grudge. He has a 2yr old with Jane now and even though they have broken up a few times plan to get married sometime in the future. She has a ring but they haven't set a date.
So Brad came to my house yesterday with Jane and the kids. She has a child from a previous relationship. He was quiet the most of the time. We have been around each other before but most of the time he goes hang out with the guys and kind of avoids talking to me to much. But yesterday he kind of had to. But there were a few things that make me wonder if he still has a "thing" for me. I don't know if I'm over reading things?
He asked for a glass of water and then followed me to the kitchen to get it. He then stood right behind me. Even reaching around me to close the cubbard door. Then I deffinatly caught him taking a paek at my chest. Which happens all the time cuse I have big ones even in a tee. My child had put a blanket right in front of him at the table so when I reached over to move it out of his way he flinched.
Anyways on top of that I think DH is worried about Brad too. He was polite when he got home and Brad and Jane were there.T his was the first time he had met Brad but he knows jane very well. He also knows the story from high school.When brad left,DH asked me if I thought brad was attractive. I told him no. If I had thought he was I would have realized homecoming was more than a "just friends" thing. Which isn't totally true, I do think Brad is attractive physically but he's not my type. He doesn't keep a job and his personallity just isn't right for me. And even physically compared to my husband he's a 2 :) at least to me.
i knew if I said that to DH he would have become more insecure. He's always afriad i'm going to leave him. i think it stems from coming from a devorced home but that's another story.
So I guess my questions are...
Am I reading into brad to much or am I right? If I am what do I do?
What I do for DH to make understand i don't want Brad?
Asked by Anonymous at 10:09 AM on Apr. 7, 2011 in Relationships
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