My husband and his ex-wife adopted adopted a boy who is now 7. He was taken from his biological mom as a baby for drug use. He has ADHD and apraxia which is a speech problem and some other issues. My husband was hesitant to adopt this boy bc of his issues and concern for his other 2 children. His ex was determined to adopt this boy and adoption took place when he was 4. The biological mom did all she could to keep her child from being adopted. Less than a year later, my husbands ex moves out and leaves him with all 3 children and no support until court ordered. We now live across the county from his ex who only sees the children in the summertime under a shared parenting agreement.
My adopted stepsons biological mother wants her son back. She is completely clean and is doing very well. She recently spent a week at our home and my heart is broken over the bond they shared and the fact that she cannot take him home. My husband and I love this child very much but feel he belongs with his mother. We would love for him to be where he belongs but the ex-wife will not turn over custody. As residential parents of this child is there anything that can be done?
Answer by gemgem at 1:02 PM on Apr. 7, 2011
Now morally, I'm not sure it's a good idea. Adoptees are not supposed to be passed around. Once an adoption has been legally finalized, that is a moral promise to the child to be their parent forever. I'm not sure I believe it's immoral, I'm just not sure. Obviously the fact that he'd be going back to his original mother does make a difference. hmmm
What about just having a very open adoption with her?
Answer by Kimedbs at 1:05 PM on Apr. 7, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 1:02 PM on Apr. 7, 2011
Answer by LoveBuggsMommie at 1:04 PM on Apr. 7, 2011
Answer by ochsamom at 1:04 PM on Apr. 7, 2011
Answer by feralkitten at 2:19 PM on Apr. 7, 2011
This is a tough one. I tried to check the laws in your state: http://laws.adoption.com/statutes/ohio-laws,3.html but couldn't quite figure them our :) If you were the one wanting to adopt him, most states have an abandonment period if no contact and no child support payment are made, where their consent to the adoption is not required, as short as 6 months. Also, for birth mom to be eligible to adopt she'd have to have a back ground check and a home inspection to qualify. Do you think she'd pass that?
So I think legally if you were able to have ex wife's rights revoked you could adopt your step son and if she passed the requirements to adopt him, It might be possible for you to relinquish parental rights to her. A couple of big ifs in there though.
Answer by Anonymous at 2:16 AM on Apr. 10, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 2:18 AM on Apr. 10, 2011