Last night our son was being 3-1/2 and having a fit and told us for the first time he didn't like/love us anymore - I raised my voice and sternly told him it is not ok to talk to Mom and Dad like that or say that about Mom and Dad.. this happened while we were driving home. We get home and I told Dad what he said and what happened and for some reason this struck him like it was personal or something and he put him in his room for a time out and our son got upset and starting crying and swung out of anger and Dad said Fine sit in here, you now lose ALL your marbles ( which is our reward system ) and you lost your show before bed tonight and you can't play with any toys either - you stay in your room and think about your actions and don't come out until I get you... then he came out and told me he almost spanked him when he swung at him and I said "you don't hit a child for hitting" to which he got mad at me and walked away - he says I always criticize his parenting - which is a battle we've been having since his birth - and Not all together true either -I am the one who reads and researches and learns about age appropriate behavior and discipline and children in general - so I DO tend to get upset I would say about 1/2 the time when he does things like this - Am I wrong to think sending a 3 year old to his room, take away his show, his toys and ALL his marbles and then wanting to spank him for a "tantrum"?? I agree he should not get away with talking to us like that or swinging a hit at us but how about talking to him / explaining to him / losing a show and a marble and call it a night??
Answer by AmaliaD at 3:39 PM on Apr. 7, 2011
I think you and your husband need to get on the same parenting page. Imagine how hard it is for him to be criticized for half of his parenting decisions.
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Answer by Anonymous at 2:33 PM on Apr. 7, 2011
I spank but if your husband had spanked him right then it would have been done in anger, not as a discipline technique. I do agree with you. However reading and researching certainly does not make ANYONE an expert and there are PLENTY of ways to deal with children. I would suggest sitting down with your hub and coming up with some guidelines and getting on the same page.
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