I'm 25 and I have the sex drive of a rabbit. I know that can be hard for DH to deal with sometimes which is why I have a chest full of toys. He would rather that than for me to become unsatisfied with our sex life and cheat. I understand that completely.
Earlier on in our relationship dh has the typical male fantasies ( FFM), semi-public sex (in the car). And a few that arent so typical (i,e salad tossing).
I indulged in a few of Dh's fantasies because I KNOW that most people only THINK they want that fantasy..to actually live it out is something different.
Over the past year or 2 dh's fantasies have kind of tapered off...mind however have REALLY taken off.
One of my fantasies is Domme/Sub play. Truth is I have no control (or so I feel) in my day to day life. In most aspects I am pretty submissive.
But I have this fantasy of being in control. I've read up on this. I feel its something I REALLY want to try out.
I talked to dh about it and he doesn't even really listen. Just shots me down. I told him that I don't mind doing the role play with someone else (male or female) with him in the same room of course.
He then goes on to tell me that it is sick and he won't entertain the idea.
He sends me these mixed messages and I swear I feel like a kid sometimes. He tells me I can tell him anything. That he's my best friend. That I HAVE to tell him these things so he can help me with it.
But he doesn't help. Anytime I've ever told him about a fantasy he judges me. Deems me sick. But HIS fantasies are RIGHT.
I love my husband but I don't see how it's fair to me to stay in a marriage where only one party is heard. I feel like if I stay in this marriage i'll be forced to lie about how I feel in the bedroom.
Am I wrong to feel lost in this situation? Is it wrong to want to explore?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:07 AM on Apr. 8, 2011 in Relationships
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