My parents were married for 22 yrs. They divorced when I was 19, grown with a baby of my own. My dad remarried less than a year later. Our(my sibs and I) relationship has been lets say constipated with his "new" wife over the past 19 yrs. She has been odd, at times rude and pissy because we didn't want to let her play step mommy when we were grow and had families of our own...and we have a mother thank you.
Anyway, 2 yrs ago July 5th, my dad wanted to go for a swim in their built in pool. His wife said the water was too cold, turned on the heater and went inside to eat lunch. My dad got in the pool..and we will never really know what happened next, but 45 minutes later she hears her name being screamed by the neighbors as the are pulling my dad who was found floating face down in the water, out of the pool. Words cannot express the depth or my sorrow.
The day he died, she started talking about money, and how she didn't know what was in the checking and she hadn't paid an electric bill in years...before the coroner even took him away! She took complete control of the funeral, we sat BEHIND her and her two kids at the funeral home service. Once she was ready she called us to his house to let us have some of his things. She had them in piles by the front door, never let us any further in than the foyer. I asked for one specific thing from his desk at work, she told me NO.
He left us 10k a piece, she gave us each 7, keeping 9 for herself. I have not spoken to her since the day I got the check in the mail. My brother is so pissed he can't see straight.
I pray for the ability to forgive and let this go, but I am sooo not feeling it. I am angry, I am hurt, and (I know this is sick, but I even thought to myself, I am glad he is gone and she is alone and unhappy!) How how how do I get past this?
Answer by admckenzie at 12:04 PM on Apr. 8, 2011
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Answer by My_Guys_Rule at 2:27 PM on Apr. 8, 2011
I'm sorry for the loss of your father. His wife is a bitch, a thief, a liar, and an uncaring hateful, ugly person. You may never get past how you feel about her and in my book that's okay. She treated you and your siblings horribly and I would pray everyday that in the end she will reap what she's sown and again that's okay, God can handle prayers like that. I also would have to tell myself that nothing I say or do can or will change the past, it is what it is, except I might ask God in that above prayer to change my heart and mind. Not saying I would, but maybe somewhere down the road I might have a change of mind. Hopefully you will never see or hear of her or from her ever again...I hate her and I don't even know her. KARMA, what goes around comes around, and the golden rule..in the end she's TOAST.
Answer by meooma at 3:14 PM on Apr. 8, 2011