Here's the deal. My husband is a really great guy. Everyone loves him. His co-workers think he is the most giving, honest, hard-working guy. Everyone praises him to me. But I feel funny and a little crazy, I guess.
About a year ago, we started joking around about "grading" each other and what we do. It was just a joke and was pretty funny. But, my husband kept it going. Now, he keeps a log, and I get a grade every day. He writes next to it all of the things I could do better to get a better grade. It has turned into something really degrading. He still laughs about it.
I have been so busy with having babies and caring for babies, that I just can't even tell you how it got to this point.
Whenever I bring it up, he tells me to "relax" that it is "just a joke". But, he is serious when he does it!
I feel stuck. Am I crazy? AM I making too much of it? What can I do?
Asked by Anonymous at 2:12 PM on Apr. 8, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by meooma at 2:15 PM on Apr. 8, 2011
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Answer by MsKylaSkyy at 2:36 PM on Apr. 8, 2011
You know how you start doing something, even for fun, and it gets out of hand. Well, this is what happened with your DH. He thinks it is nothing, and has not realized that you are hurt by it. Do not step lightly about this. Tell him you are tired of being graded, and you find it disrespectful. Don't ask him to stop, tell him to stop. Maybe if you are a little more forceful in this situation, he might realize you are not joking anymore and he might stop. Good luck.
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