After seven years of trying to have a baby, including 15 cycles of in-vitro fertilisation and six lost pregnancies, John and Kate De'Laney have resorted to advertising for a stranger to donate her eggs.
The South Lake couple have advertised in this weekend's The Weekend West for a woman who will donate eggs so they can finally have a baby.
Mr De'Laney, 48, who manages a labour hire business, said they were desperate to have a baby but needed a donor because a genetic disorder meant his 36-year-old wife's eggs were unlikely to achieve a lasting pregnancy.
They had tried IVF at the Concept Fertility Clinic and managed six pregnancies but all were lost, the longest lasting just seven weeks.
The De'Laneys had since joined the clinic's waiting list for donor eggs but had been told they were 45th in the queue and only a few couples received eggs each year.
In desperation, they were now publicly appealing to women who have had children of their own to help them realise their dream of a family.
Mr De'Laney said he did not know how much they had spent on IVF so far because it was too depressing.
"We've deliberately not sat down and worked out the cost because it would be horrendous, with cycles costing anything between $6000 and $10,000 a cycle, so we just don't want to think about it," he said.
"We've got Medicare and private health insurance but there is still a big gap, but it's tough enough doing this without worrying about the money side of things too."
Concept scientific director Peter Burton said there were long waiting lists for egg donors, who needed to be aged 18 to 35, as well as a six-month waiting list for donor sperm.
Egg donors were harder to attract because the process of retrieving eggs was more invasive. They could only be paid a basic fee to cover their time and not for the eggs.
Dr Burton said generally it was better if couples had a known donor but this was not always possible.
Mr De'Laney said while he was keen to find a donor, he also hoped more than one woman would come forward so that other couples could be helped. "Many people just aren't aware of the predicament we face," he said.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:15 AM on Apr. 9, 2011 in Adoption
Answer by letlovegrow2524 at 7:11 AM on Apr. 9, 2011
I can't even imagine the heartbreak of losing that many babies. The excitement of being pregnant, to constantly have that ripped away from me. I would NOT have gone through that 6 times. I would try for adoption/foster parenting. But that's me and this is them and this is how they want to have their family so no judgements here.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 7:31 AM on Apr. 9, 2011
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Answer by mrsmom110 at 7:57 AM on Apr. 9, 2011
So what if they arn't biologically your, they can and will still love you the same.
You can not guarantee that they will love you like a parent. And some people want a baby and apparently wanting a baby is very selfish according to some women on here. I would donate eggs, I just wouldn't carry them.
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Next question overall
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