The whole story is really long so I'm goin to try & shorten this w/o losing anything important. I want to know what you would have done & if you think I should be begging for forgiveness?
I have a guy friend who I'm still madly inlove with and I've known him for 14 yrs. (FYI I'm married) I wrote a letter, that I planned on throwing away, to figure out what was going on in my head because I was confused. I wrote all of my feelings for him down then forgot to chuck it. Hubby found it & is very upset & feels betrayed. We fought & I figured out the hard way I don't want to lose him (hubby) so I called my friend and told him we can't talk anymore. Deleted his number, his mom's number, & a mutual friend on myspace. Hubby still doesn't believe me and thinks I just changd his name in the phone. How long will it take for him to be over it and trust me again?
Thanks Ladies Please no bashin the whole story isn't here
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Asked by Anonymous at 9:14 PM on Nov. 30, 2008 in Relationships
You made a mistake (by not throwing the letter away), I think you had every right to journal down your feelings...unfortunately your DH found it. You have done all you can do right now. You have called the guy, deleted phone numbers, ect.....I can understand your DH being hurt or whatever...but you didn't have an affair (I assume that info wasn't something you left out), or at least a physical affair....emotional affair could be in question. Anyway, point being...time can heal all wounds....sorry it happened right before the holidays....just keep to your word...don't call the guy or have contact with anyone who can get word back to him....keep your promises...that's all you can do.
Answer by Southerncharmes at 9:20 PM on Nov. 30, 2008
Answer by jennieo622 at 9:20 PM on Nov. 30, 2008
Answer by workenmom at 9:20 PM on Nov. 30, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 9:20 PM on Nov. 30, 2008
We have been talking about it off and on but I'm visiting my mom right now and we can't really settle things till I get back. He is doing better but still has a hard time with it here and there. I just was curious if anyone else has gone through this from either end. He has a hard time expressing his feeling like most men lol
Answer by Anonymous at 9:23 PM on Nov. 30, 2008
Southerncharmes No i didn't have a physical affair with him thought about it but couldn't acctually do it. emotional affair I would say yes that happened I did tell him over the phone how I felt and he told me that he loved me too but he wasn't right for me because of all the drugs he's into and the life styl he lives. I know I could never be with him because I have my boys and they are not worth losing over some weed..
Answer by Anonymous at 9:27 PM on Nov. 30, 2008
Answer by beckcorc at 9:27 PM on Nov. 30, 2008
Answer by Southerncharmes at 9:28 PM on Nov. 30, 2008
Answer by admckenzie at 9:28 PM on Nov. 30, 2008
Oh boy..you DID get yourself in a mess didn't you. At least you know now that this friends relationship is not worth losing your husband. I'm glad that there was no physical relationship with him so maybe your husband doesn't have to carry that hurt around with him. Maybe since nothing happened, your husband will be willing to get over it sooner & will want to discuss on strengthening your marriage.(only time will tell) The only thing that I can say is to let him know that you are giving him 110 percent on making things right & as long as it takes. Enough "sorrys" wont make it right..You will have to prove this one. Good Luck, I wish you the best on saving your marriage.
Answer by onespecialmom at 9:57 PM on Nov. 30, 2008
Next question overall
for people who have late august/early september babies! how bad is it?