This morning when i went to check on my son in his room. I notice that he was hiding his computer from my view. (He is 8 years old) I then asked him what is it that you don't want me to see? He said nothing i'm just looking at a game. I then said let me see and he kept trying to hide what he was looking at. I then took the computer from his hands as he clicked the delete button saying oops i made a mistake and deleted it. I then told him thats ok cause i can bring it up again. He was shocked and said, "you can". I said yes i can and proceeded to do so but i needed my glasses. I then asked him again what game was it or what site were you on. he said i don't know. i then said you do know and if by the time i come back with my glasses you don't tell me there will be a punishment since your obviously on a site you know your not allowed to be on. He then told me he was on a site looking at naked women. (Porn site)well i was shocked but, don't think i showed it. I asked him how he got to this site since we have the parental guides on it. I would like to know how i could have handled this better and how i should talk to him on this matter since i've never been in this situation before. I did ask him what made him go to this site and he said he heard his brother one day say the word sex. (don't ask me lol). Anyway I then asked him if he went there cause he had questions he said i don't know. I then told him well if you have any questions you know you can come to me or daddy and we will answer them for you, but that place you were on was not a good place and it has a distorted view of love and how it should be shown to some one you love. Your computer is going to be taken from you for awhile and when daddy wakes up he is going to have a (son-day ) talk with you. he got very upset and told me he didn't want daddy having the talk he wanted me to have it with him. I then told him no daddy needs to talk to you more then what i have told you. (I did not know what else i could say or do i was so shocked.) so i pawned it off on daddy. But i did tell him to calm down not to be upset about getting punished that he was not in trouble at all. I just wanted daddy to have a talk with him and answer any questions he had that he felt he couldn't ask me. Did i handle this correctly? and if not what more could I have done?
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