Oh, honey! Poor little girl... Does her teacher know any of this? Sounds like this little girl could use as many positive adult figures as possible. I'm a big believer in giving kids "jobs" (age and situation appropriate of course) to help them build a sense of belonging and pride. Since she's getting in trouble at school, this could be a great opportunity for her to work it off with the teacher/school... If I was her teacher, I would find something little but helpful that she can do for 15 minutes before or after school and I would use that as a chance to talk and bond with her (hoping that she comes to look at school as a good and safe place).
If the school can't help, maybe you could have her "work off" her behavior as a volunteer someplace on a regular basis. Most organizations that take volunteers are full of really kind, gracious, loving people - this would be a good thing to have in her life.
at 12:23 PM on Apr. 11, 2011