My husband is half black and half white ... His mom is white and after she got pregnant his bio dad left, he was raised by the man she married who was also white.... My husband actually looks more like a guy with a deep tan , he has brown hair and green eyes ...
I am white , and so our children look white with a tan ( not as dark as my husband) ... they have light green eyes like me, and my son has light brown straight hair... my daughter does have big curly hair that I guess would look more "black" , and sometimes will even turn into a "fro shape" , however I had hair similar to that growing up because I have super thick - curly hair ( until i started straightning it in jr. high, not it wont hardly curl lol) ...
We live in a small country town 98% white ( there is also another "mixed family" however they are alot darker than our family) , my husband has always checked the "caucasian" box when filling out papers.... we do the same for our children ....
I was recently asked what race my children specify as ... and I was " i guess white" ... because besides checking the box when filling out forms, it has never any kind of issue and has never been brought up........ however this person thought my children would be missing out on their heritage by not "making them more black" .... I am not exactly sure what they meant or even think that is right... I mean my oldest is 4, and it isnt like we are teaching them "white stuff" .... I mean honestly, my husband and I are a whole lot of things ( I am native american, irish, german, etc and besides african american he also has some irish and german in him) ... I mean we dont really teach our kids any of those things either , so how is this different ?
This is a person I have to see and talk to almost everyday...... how would you respond to this or even think about it ?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:49 AM on Apr. 10, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by shynu at 2:02 AM on Apr. 10, 2011
Answer by KRob85 at 2:17 AM on Apr. 10, 2011
Answer by loudnproud87 at 4:07 AM on Apr. 10, 2011
Answer by juni21 at 4:11 AM on Apr. 10, 2011
I don't see her point. How is checking off a box, or not, going to make a person miss out on their heritage? That will only happen, if you, the parent, allows it.
Answer by Christine0813 at 2:16 PM on Apr. 10, 2011
Answer by matthewscandi at 3:08 PM on Apr. 10, 2011
Answer by matthewscandi at 3:10 PM on Apr. 10, 2011
Answer by vbruno at 4:06 PM on Apr. 10, 2011
Answer by FricknFrack at 6:21 PM on Apr. 10, 2011
Answer by FricknFrack at 6:22 PM on Apr. 10, 2011