yesterday my husband and his friend went to walmart to get some stuff for the BBQ we had. while there he picked up a rapunzel (sp) barbie doll for her since her favorite movie right now is Tangled. i'll admit it was out of the blue and a big surprise since my husband is quite the penny pincher and thinks they have too many toys as it is. but it was a lovely surprise for her and she has been playing with it constantly.
so anyway i was on the phone with my mom last night and told her about it, and the first thing she asked was "why"? then proceeded this morning to tell me "when someone does something out of character you have to wonder why" and i was pretty insulted. yes, my husband has a history of aggressive behavior, he is dealing with unresolved PTSD issues from his 15 month tour in iraq in 07-08. but he's been seeing a therapist and getting much better. his behavior was emotional and NEVER physical. he just wasn't able to control his temper and would sometimes lash out at the kids. but he is getting better and truly just bought the barbie out of kindness. so for my parents to insinuate that he must've yelled at her or hurt her in some way and then went and bought her a barbie to make up for it is offensive!
im sure their intentions are good but i wish they would keep thoughts like that to themselves. they know if something was going on i would tell them. we're having a family get together at my house today and after our conversation this morning i just feel sad and angry at the same time. i always feel uneasy when they come over too because i feel like they are searching for signs of abuse or something. i wish they would just accept that my husband made mistakes in the past and is trying his hardest to rectify them.
Answer by vbruno at 10:08 AM on Apr. 10, 2011
Answer by hopeandglory53 at 11:03 AM on Apr. 10, 2011
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