My son lives at his dad for now. His dad and his last gf split up last summer. My ex is pretty anti social and it is affecting our son. My son used to have friends and liked going out as a family when he came down on weekends. Now whatever we plan he does not want to do. For instance my 21 yr old came over with her kids yesterday and wanted to take ds to the movies. He said no. He said he wanted to see Sucker Punch, not the movie she was taking him to. She thought it was rude, so did I.
My 21 yr old also planned a trip to the zoo as a family again. My son again said no he doesnt want to go. No matter what we plan he does not want to do it. He wants to stay home and play video games and thats a huge no no in my house. His dad lets him during the week though so it makes it hard to break when he is here. Just last weekend we spent a couple hours at the park while my dd practiced for softball and he moaned and complained for the entire two hours.
My dd says not to give him a choice and just to say "You ARE going with your sister" or "You ARE coming with us like it or not". And that is what we are doing, but how do I get him to actually be interested? Is this a phase? I have 5 kids and none of them have ever gone through this "phase" at this age.
Answer by Kimedbs at 10:16 AM on Apr. 10, 2011
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Answer by twinsplus2more at 10:19 AM on Apr. 10, 2011
When I was a kid I hated family outings because some of them were long and I really did have a problem with sitting there for hours watching soccer or something else. Maybe if he brings a book if he can invite a friend once and a while going will not seem so long. He complains but maybe he is at the park get him to walk around or bring a ball or something to do?
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 10:25 AM on Apr. 10, 2011
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