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Do you REALLY believe a relationship should be 50/50?

Or do you think it should be 100/100?

Dh and I strive to have a 100/100 relationship. If you each only give 50% to the relationship, where's that other 50% going?

I know, you can only have 100% to be a complete relationship, right? Have you ever considered that if you both had the perspective that if you each put in 100%, your very best, that your relationship would be exponentially better? You'd never get hung up in the, "our relationship is 80/20." realm of thinking. You wouldn't be limited to just "doing your half." Or "holding your end."

Love is always supposed to over-fill your cup, not be half empty when you have a bad day.

From here out, let's choose to have a 100/100 relationship with everyone we know! Who's with me?

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Asked by matobe at 12:17 PM on Apr. 11, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (19)
  • I agree but unfortunately in mine its more like 80/60 LOL me being the 80

    Answer by rhonda111787 at 12:18 PM on Apr. 11, 2011

  • just stepped on my big toe, little lady! ouch!!
    i'll try to be with you...

    Answer by dullscissors at 12:18 PM on Apr. 11, 2011

  • that is a very logical way of looking at it. i agree with you 100%

    Answer by gwen20 at 12:19 PM on Apr. 11, 2011

  • I couldnt have said it better myself! 100/100 all the way

    Answer by Lucky209 at 12:20 PM on Apr. 11, 2011

  • I'm pretty sure when people say 50/50 they say that cause then it makes 100%. I don't think they mean only give half of yourself. Its more like a figure of speech I think

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:20 PM on Apr. 11, 2011

  • Its never 50/50. sometimes is 60/40 or 90/10 and everything in between. Couples should however Always give 100% to the relationship. It's always a give and take. Sometimes you give more than you get and other times it's the opposite.

    Answer by vbruno at 12:21 PM on Apr. 11, 2011

  • Way to go, ladies!

    @anon, but isn't it logical to train ourselves to think 100/100 as opposed to risking the misinterpretation of 50/50 to the literal sense?

    Comment by matobe (original poster) at 12:23 PM on Apr. 11, 2011

  • No, because your relationship should be a 50-50 partnership, and you should be giving 100% of your 50% share of voice.

    Answer by rio_burb at 12:24 PM on Apr. 11, 2011

  • Yes I agree it should be 100/100. I wasn't saying you were wrong. Just saying I never thought of myself or dh giving just 50/50. Even though that is what people say. kwim?

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:25 PM on Apr. 11, 2011

  • I think you have the wrong idea about what the 50/50 thing means. It means that both sides have to give and take. That no one gets to have complete control or ultimate power in the relationship. Not about how much of you you put in, it's about equal "ownership" of the relationship, a balance of "power." You can't have 100/100 and still be a couple, because you can't both have complete control.

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 12:25 PM on Apr. 11, 2011

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