First off, thank you to anyone who has taken the time to read this.
So dh and I have been together 9 years. 4 children in those nine years and dh has gone from over 200lbs to about 160lbs. I'm so proud of him. But even he will admit to you that it is not because of diet and exercise. It's from doing his job and not having time to eat.
Anyway, in those 9 years i've gone from barely 110lbs to tipping the scale at 200 pretty much(195-197). Shortly after our youngest was born ( 16 months ago), my sex drive hit the roof. Going like rabbits.
Lately however, past few weeks, every time dh tries to initiate sex I cringe. It's not him. It really is me. I close my eyes and I see my fat stomach or the turkey rolls on my neck and I can only imagine how disgusting I look. I try to push it from my mind but all I really end up thinking is, "Please God don't let him touch my stomach. Please don't ask to have sex with the lights on, or during the day. Please don't ask me to get on top, you'll be able to see. Please just finish fast, so you don't have to see me."
I know he thinks something is very wrong because like I said. I was highly sexual. I can't even fake my way through it. I don't even like him touching me just for a hug.
I've been dieting and trying to get as much exercise as possible. But the stomach area seems to be stuck there, laughing at me. My doc said I need plastic surgery to correct that. He said he didn't really think there would be too much of a change in that area without it. Well doc, we're just now building a savings, 4 kids and trying to repair our credit. I CAN"T have plastic surgery. NOT an option.
I've talked to dh about my feelings and he assures me that he still finds me as sexy as ever. But lets be real. He simply says that to avoid hurting my feelings.
How can I get over this self image issue?
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