I'm seriously considering divorce (DH refuses to work on our marriage--I've been trying for 2 years and doing it all by myself, so please don't bash)...So I had a few questions...
1) If you have kids, do you change your name back to your maiden name? Or keep your married name? Do you have to have that Court Ordered, or can you do it just by changing your name on your SSN card?
2) What is important to have in the papers regarding financials? (I'm a SAHM, don't want any alimony, but would like to split the savings, as the only reason we have savings is because I put away my "spending" money)
3) Do you do an itemized list for belongings, or just split it up yourselves? We don't have much "joint" property--furniture, tv..He has a vehicle in his name and one in mine...
4) Any other ideas?
I know all the custody stuff, as DH has a daughter from a previous marriage, so we deal with all of that already...Don't need advice with all of that...
Again, at this point, I'm CONSIDERING it, it's not a definite...Maybe he will pull his head out of his butt long enough to help me to fix our marriage. I don't WANT a divorce, but I'm not going to be unhappy the rest of my life just to avoid divorce.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:06 AM on Apr. 12, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by gemgem at 9:10 AM on Apr. 12, 2011
Answer by zoejains_momma at 9:11 AM on Apr. 12, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 9:12 AM on Apr. 12, 2011
Answer by MizLee at 9:13 AM on Apr. 12, 2011
Answer by rhonda111787 at 9:13 AM on Apr. 12, 2011
If you change your name back to your maiden name you can have it put in the divorce papers. If it is not in the divorce papers you have to pay a court fee to change your name. Finances you need to have exactly who gets what regarding all of the assets. Retirement, savings, all of that needs to be accounted for. As far as alimony being a SAHM given the economy you should probably take it until you are able to get a job and on your feet. Belongings you will need an itemized list unless you two split on friendly enough terms that you are not fighting over things. My ex and I had lived separately for a long while before the divorce was final so for us we just had it put in the papers that he kept what he had and I kept what I had at our residences. I hope you are able to work it out, but you are right a marriage is not something you fix on your own.
Answer by Alanaplus3 at 9:16 AM on Apr. 12, 2011
Answer by admckenzie at 9:28 AM on Apr. 12, 2011