Okay, this might be kind of long, but I would like other people's opinions on this. Currently, my 4 year old lives with me. I have full physical custody and joint legal with his father. His father pays a whole $5 a month in child support, and sees him every other weekend, given he has a ride...
His father has severe manic-depression and is suicidal. He has two court orders in effect for his medication and counseling and he's not doing either that I know of. About a year and a half ago, he got re-married to his new wife, who, IMO, is a COMPLETE bitch. She tried to get my son to call her mom on the first weekend she met him! AND HIS DAD SAID NOTHING!!! Anyways, that's not the point...lol
So, I've SERIOUSLY been considering getting a motion to suspend parenting time and get more child support (I don't have any income right now besides student loans, so it would REALLY help). Me and my fiance have been talking for a while and we think that this is best, because when he goes to his father's house, all he ends up doing is sitting on the computer playing games and watching his shows (my son, not the father), and, from what I've heard, his father sleeps all day because he's up with his new child at night (he NEVER did that with our son when we were together).
We believe it would be in my son's best interest to stay with us, because he HATES going to his father's house. He cries and screams the whole time we drop him off, and he says he's always in trouble there.
While I have my son (dad only gets hi every other weekend), his dad never calls or anything to see how our son's doing or anything. He refuses to participate in counseling that I have for my son because of his behavior issues, and it seriously seems like he doesn't even care.
What do you think? Would it be best if I just took full custody? He absolutely LOVES my fiance and NEVER wants to leave us...I would just like some opinions to see that I'm doing what's best.
Answer by dullscissors at 10:15 AM on Apr. 12, 2011
Answer by spottedpony at 10:16 AM on Apr. 12, 2011
In the best interest of the child should be every-one's goal, but unfortunately judges, courts, lawyers have a skewed idea of what that is. The bio has rights regardless of their failure to support or visit the child which are rarely taken away. Its sad that your little guy has to suffer because of the rights of his biodad. Try for full custody, more child support, parenting classes and whatever else you can think of to make his dad MISERABLE and maybe you'll get lucky and he will voluntarily sign the all important Termination of Parent Rights (TPR). Good luck to both you and your son.
Answer by meooma at 10:20 AM on Apr. 12, 2011
Answer by Lorithehun at 10:24 AM on Apr. 12, 2011
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Answer by MamaRudolph at 10:26 AM on Apr. 12, 2011
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Answer by maiahlynn at 11:22 AM on Apr. 12, 2011