My husband and I are looking to start the adoption process again. Our youngest two are almost 3 and we really want to adopt an older boy between the ages of 5-7. If you've adopted an older child, especially if there were other children in the home, I would love your words of wisdom for me as we start the adoption journey again. We adopted a baby the first time, so it feels a little bit new to us. Any advice?
I am in the process of adopting my 3 oldest from the foster system (check out my page). I am not going to lie to you about this, older kids do come with behavior problems, and your younger children will pick up on the bad behavior, but they are worth it. Behaviors can change, but without you, that kid's (the one you adopt) current life will (most likely) not. My kids have two extremes and rarely a middle road. They are either having huge tantrums, or being the most thoughtful loving kids ever. They will tell you about experiences YOU are not old enough to have yet, but still, they are worth it, and they need you. In the 16 months these kids have been with us, they are completely different children. (behavior) IT IS WORTH IT!!
Answer by 3gifts.from.god at 2:00 PM on Dec. 3, 2008
Answer by hopingforanange at 2:10 PM on Dec. 1, 2008
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Answer by Anonymous at 7:10 PM on Dec. 1, 2008
Oh, and don't let the "educated" people who can't keep thier opinions to themselves tell you that you are going to mess all your kids up by going outside of the "natural" birth order. I just tell the "experts" that my kids have not read thier books and studies, so they don't know the difference anyway.
Answer by 3gifts.from.god at 2:03 PM on Dec. 3, 2008
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