16 year old DD wants to get together with her bf at our house, fine. We're home and no one goes upstairs...if they cuddle on the couch or smooch a bit we don't care too much. Watch a movie, go out in our yard, play music stay for dinner...all in plain view and I don't hover. Sometimes they go to the mall or evening events at school and that's been awesome.
The past few times she's been to his house both parents are home and Mom checks on them often as they have a TV room upstairs. She said to me when we first met "No girls over unless I'm home". Not this last time because only Dad was there (I didn't know this until after the fact) and left them upstairs, and apparently didn't check on them because she accidentally left a chat wide open on the computer that said something like "2nd base seems so silly now" and "yeah, things just kind of snowballed" and "it's amazing we went 5 months without any of that" and then "I don't care what we do together I always have fun"......Now, I can't imagine they got into much more than clothes on feeling up, but really Dad? He was apparently very into watching his sports downstairs, but not the teens. Should I ask Mom if she even knows my DD was there? DD said they watched TV downstairs, but I know that's not true. My DH and I think that we will simply say no more visits there unless Mom's home, too, without going into any details. What do you think? I know they are going to experiment, but I'm not into facilitating it! I'm maybe a tad old -fashioned that way. I've asked her if with the last bf if she felt the need to address/get birth control and she said "NO!" I think she must know I saw the chat, but didn't say anything...we all use the same computer, so anyone could've seen it, whoever opened it up first me, my 12 yr old son, or DH. Thanks for your help!
Asked by Anonymous at 12:08 PM on Apr. 12, 2011 in Teens (13-17)
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