how do you deal with people who seem to judge the situation?
i was out today with my boys and my fiances little brother, who we have custody of. we were buying stuff for his new bedroom and at the checkout line the woman commented on the items. saying something along the lines of "you must be redecorating! what a nice mommy you have" and jonah said to her shes not my mom which is his automatic response - and im totally fine with because its true. so anyway she gave me some sort of questioning look and I just mentioned "hes my little brother" (which is easier than saying fiances little brother) to which she replied "well I hope his mommy is ok with a new bedroom!" which was just a weird comment. idek. I wish I had just let it go but it really slipped out.. I mummbled "he lives with me..." she just gave me this weird look like "umm okaaaaaaaaay" kind of a look. I was really taken aback by her attitude! I said nothing more and she said nothing more. but its been bugging me all day.
anyway i was wondering if any of you moms who are raising children who are not biologically yours, and do not think of you as mom, have had situations like this? what do you make of people juding the situation?
thanks for reading, I just needed to get it off my chest.
Answer by lovinlifewith5 at 12:44 AM on Apr. 13, 2011
Answer by ElsaSalsaaa at 2:13 AM on Apr. 13, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 2:14 AM on Apr. 13, 2011
I have step children, who lived with us for awhile. I treated them as I treated my own children. They knew who their bio Mom was..and I wanted them to recognize their bio Mom. I honestly didn't care what other people thought and honestly I didn't get that much attention as a step parent. I still had to do all the things the bio Mom would do......so I guess I never had a real problem with anyone saying anything.....
Answer by justalady774 at 2:14 AM on Apr. 13, 2011