I have been struggeling with this for a while, over a year now. What I going through is this..... I have not felt IN LOVE to my husband for over a year. I haven't been attracted to him this long either. When he attempts to hug, kiss or be affectionate with me it's almost like I am repulsed. I think to myself, Stop touching me. When I kiss him I can't wait for it to be over. Sex, when I did it, it was to appease his whining that I don't want to be with him. He knew things were this way. Then in January, after other issues, things just erupted and I said I am done. We seperated officially. Been living seperately since before that actually. A couple weeks ago I said I would go to counseling with him. We spent a bunch of time together for about 9 days straight, attempting to see if I could change how I felt. I didn't. I am still not wanting bothered to even be touched. We were in the same house for a few days and didn't sleep in the same bed and to me I think a married couple should WANT to be touched, kissed, loved, be in the same bed. Instead I could care less. I did date a few people during our months of seperation and did eventually feel that attraction again. To me that said Hey, you are capable of feeling happy to hug someone, excited to kiss someone, and just miss someone. That to me said, well, at least you know you are capable of feeling these emotions. My husband is very persistant. Insists that he made me fall in love with him once, he can do it again. He thinks if he looses weight, gets a steady job, turns his act around I will be in love and attracted to him. I told him it's not about loosing 20 pounds, or making more money...... being in love and attracted to someone is a mental connection.
My real question is, have you ever fallen out of love and been able to fall back in love with the same person? Have you ever felt repulsed by your spouses touch, but over time appreciated it again?
I am going to try counseling with him. But don't know how a counselor can make you fall in love. I am not affraid to be open and honest either, so I will give the therapy 100%. As I give him my honest feelings, so it won't be info he has never heard or doesn't know from observation either.
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