My SO is not my children's father. We have progressed to a point where we are contemplating living together/marriage, which means that he will have an active role in raising my kids with me. The problem is he thinks I don't discipline them enough, and I think he's at the other end of the spectrum and is too hard on them (in discussing what he would do if he were to discipline them). I know that I am their mother, and that in the end, I decide how they are raised. But, if we're going to be together like this, he has to have some say in how things happen in the home, since it's his home too and he would be paying the majority of the rent and bills.
I am not willing to allow him to be too hard on my kids. But I also don't want to just throw it all away over this if it's something that could be resolved.
Does anyone who has a blended family have any advice for how we can talk about this and find a solution that makes everyone, him, me and kids, happy?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:53 AM on Apr. 14, 2011 in Relationships
I do not have a blended family but I can see your point. Before you go and make it official there are things you need to clear up with him and come to some sort of compromise and meet him halfway as far as discipline is concerned.
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