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You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?

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Asked by Chunky_Dynamic at 1:11 PM on Apr. 14, 2011 in Just for Fun

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Answers (14)
  • Stick up for her. It's not nice to gossip.

    Answer by Renee3K at 1:12 PM on Apr. 14, 2011

  • Be a good friend and speak up on her behalf.

    Answer by pookiekins34 at 1:12 PM on Apr. 14, 2011

  • defend her respectfully, talk about her better qualities, what good she does with her life, how cute her family is and ask them if they know FOR sure all this gossip is true.

    Answer by zoejains_momma at 1:12 PM on Apr. 14, 2011

  • I think I would just mention that she is a friend if they have any self-respect they will not speak like that about her in front of you again.

    Answer by Graciesmom528 at 1:14 PM on Apr. 14, 2011

  • I would just say "Oh I know her, she is actually a good friend of mine." That should stop them.

    Answer by nmmama09 at 1:19 PM on Apr. 14, 2011

  • I'd say 'Sorry, I am staying out of this one, her and I are friends'. Then they'd probably either shutup, look at me like I'm insane, or start stumbling over their words trying to find something nice to say. That's usually how gossips react when you say something like that.

    Answer by Nanixh at 1:30 PM on Apr. 14, 2011

  • say something... you need to defend your friend...

    Answer by littlekitty2002 at 1:51 PM on Apr. 14, 2011

  • Tell them that you do not appreciate the way they are talking about your friend. She is not there to defend herself.

    Answer by Jerzymom at 2:06 PM on Apr. 14, 2011

  • I would speak up & say something!

    Answer by momto4girzls at 4:14 PM on Apr. 14, 2011

  • Tell them you don't feel comfortable listening to this because she is your friend. If they don't stop just get up and leave.

    Answer by spagirl0426 at 4:17 PM on Apr. 14, 2011

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