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How does the way you were raised influence you as a parent?

e.g. if you had strict parents, do you tend to be strict or lenient with your own kids?


Asked by 1smartcookie at 1:58 PM on Apr. 15, 2011 in General Parenting

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  • I was raised strict. I am the same but much more relaxed with it. My kids will be respectful, clean their room, listen, do chores etc. I am just much softer then my Mother was about it if that makes any sense. Teenager years I am worried about but will have to remember to give them breathing space.

    Answer by sarasmommy777 at 2:04 PM on Apr. 15, 2011

  • I think you tend to balance both (strict and lenient).

    Answer by pbfarma at 2:00 PM on Apr. 15, 2011

  • My parents never encouraged my brother nor myself to become involved in extra curricular activities -- so I am HUGE on that!

    I am probably a little stricter on my children -- because I know firsthand what I did with extra freedom!

    Answer by BaileysMom476 at 2:01 PM on Apr. 15, 2011

  • According to our oldest (14) we're the most strict parents out of all of his friends. My my Hubby and I had strict parents, with different approaches, but I think we're even more strict then they were. I'm proud to be a strict parent. It can be very challenging, and hard to carry through at times, but the pay off is so much greater, than just letting them do what they want, when they want. Our boys are better for it. IMO

    Answer by MrsLeftlane at 2:10 PM on Apr. 15, 2011

  • My dad was more strict then my mom .. And I waver between the two parenting styles. I tend to be passive (like my mom) about some things and really strict (like my dad) about other things. The diciplin is just like my dad. He was the bad cop, so to speak.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 2:10 PM on Apr. 15, 2011

  • My parents were really, really strict, and my mom had an anger management problem when it came to dealing with me. I'm strict, but not irrationally so like my mom was. And I will actually reconsider things and admit when I'm wrong, which my mom would never do. And I don't hit them, which my mom did.

    Answer by Freela at 2:16 PM on Apr. 15, 2011

  • Thanks, everyone! Here's my answer: I had strict parents. Mom was verbally abusive and dad spanked. I don't take either of these tactics with my three. Also, mom never talked to me...I knew not to ask any questions, ever. My kids know they can talk to me about anything. I don't freak out when they bring home a stray bad grade. I guess I'm strict with boundaries.


    Comment by 1smartcookie (original poster) at 2:21 PM on Apr. 15, 2011

  • I parent with love, something both my parents for different reason were unable to do.

    Answer by meooma at 2:35 PM on Apr. 15, 2011