And it REALLY bothers me. When he came home and told me he had smoked last night it hit me like a ton of bricks. I was JUST thinking the other day how happy I was that no one smoked in my house. I know I'm overreacting here, but it seriously felt like a betrayal to me, similar to how I imagine I would feel if he came home and told me he had kissed another woman. At first I insisted that he throw the rest of his cigarettes out, but then I calmed down a little and told him that I would trust him to use his judgment on this. But it still hurts me a lot. A LOT. I want to cry right now talking about it. He knows how I feel about it.
He's a grown man and I don't want to tell him what to do. I love him a lot, and he's a good guy. I just don't know how to let this go. I'm upset that he doesn't want to come to ME when he's upset or stressed, he wants to withdraw and deal with it on his own. And he used to smoke before we ever got together, and it feels right now like part of him is no longer mine because he's gone back to that.
I'm so hurt... how do I let him be him and make his own decisions without feeling like he's betraying me every time he does this?
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