I got pregnant with my first child in February 2007. Since then my friends have all disapeared. I am so depressed and I used to cry about it but its been so long now that I don't have the energy left to cry. Some of them are pregnant with their first kid now and I still try to call them to hang out- but I resent them.
I hate that throughout my 2 pregnancies and my kids' life they haven't called EVEN ONE TIME to go out to dinner or to stop by to visit (we live about 5-10 minutes away from each other). I hate that no one cared how I was feeling or could relate to me while I was pregnant...
It really makes me angry that I put effort in to be these peoples friends and get nothing in return. I feel like having these people ditch me has left me unable to make new friends (I have no friends- seriously. I have tried play groups to meet moms, moms sites, I go to "kid friendly" places almost every day to try to meet moms with kids similar to my children's ages).
I want so much to be able to make new friends but have no energy or trust left. It makes me feel like a loser and an idiot. My husband is sick of me complaining about the same issues week after week and month after month.
I honestly don't know what to do that I haven't tried already. I feel like I am cheating my kids by not having friends with kids who we can hang out with for them to play together.
sorry this is a long vent. I am just really having a bad day and my emotions are catching up with me.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:13 PM on Apr. 15, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by wendydays at 9:17 PM on Apr. 15, 2011
Answer by 8Tinkerboo8 at 9:18 PM on Apr. 15, 2011
Answer by xmama_bellax at 9:18 PM on Apr. 15, 2011
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Answer by ambr2006 at 9:27 PM on Apr. 15, 2011
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Answer by brypmom at 9:31 PM on Apr. 15, 2011
I hear you. I just recently found out that the person I thought was my best friendf or the past 3 years was only using and manipulating me. She showed me her true colors, and stabbed me in the back, hard, in the process. She's dependent on her husband (she can't take him being in another room for more than 5 minutes without going to look for him) and has an addictive personality (her words). When I wouldn't support her stupidity when she got drunk one day she told me to piss off and that we were done, that I was fake and blah blah blah. She said several very hurtful things.
Because of her I doubt I'll ever trust another person enough to build any kind of close friendship again. I won't be used like that again. so hear you about the friends thing.
Answer by Rosehawk at 10:01 PM on Apr. 15, 2011
Answer by LeJane at 10:56 PM on Apr. 15, 2011
Answer by elizabr at 10:03 AM on Apr. 16, 2011