Father's right to pregnancy?
I am 19 weeks pregnant with my first child. The father broke up with me when I was 7 weeks. I have told him that I understand that he wants to be apart of the child's life when she is born but until then, he can call and get updates on the doctor's appointments but other then that, he doesn't have a part in my pregnancy. His mother is constantly harassing me because she wants to be in the delivery room and have him there when I have the ultrasounds. He actually showed up at my home the day of my ultrasound demanding to get to go and then followed me to the doctor's office, it was only after I threatened to call the police that he left. His family seems to think that this is their baby and I am just the incubator. Well anyway, my brother is in the Army and has 2 children that he will get custody of in the divorce (which will be finalized next week) IF he has someone to stay with his kids. He has asked me to come live with him, I won't have to pay for anything and I just watch his kids while he is at work and when he is deployed and take care of the house (basically be his wife lol). It is a very good opportunity for me and I can still go to college online (like I am now). I will have to move 6 hours away to do this but I am barely making ends meet right now and I don't know what I am going to do when the baby comes. Well I told my ex about this and he got mad, saying that I am taking away his RIGHT to be part of the pregnancy. As far as being in the room for the ultrasound and the delivery, that is personal and it should be my choice as to who is in there. As far as moving, I have to do what is best for me and the baby. Am I wrong? I truly don't feel that he has any right to my pregnancy.
Since my most quit a bit has happened, my ex showed up at my apartment drunk and yelling at me that either I let him in the delivery room and stay here in town or he is gonna "cut the baby out of me". Obviously, I called 911, he was arrested. He stayed in jail over night and was given an order that he must stay 500 yards away from me until he is sentenced. I also filed a restraining order to make sure this continues. I KNOW now that moving is the best thing I can do for me and my baby. Plus the whole delivery room thing won't be an issue since as there will probably be a restraining order in place by then, he won't even be allowed in the hospital while I am there.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:47 AM on Apr. 16, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by lilysmom2607 at 11:15 AM on Apr. 16, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 11:19 AM on Apr. 16, 2011
Answer by DomoniqueWS at 11:20 AM on Apr. 16, 2011
Speaking from experience I'd say get away as fast as you can- I wish I would have!! No matter where you live he will be able to get visitation if he chooses, which he may not if it's too much of a "hassle" for him. Do what is best for you- not your ex or his mother. Good luck!!
Answer by skittles1108 at 11:22 AM on Apr. 16, 2011
Answer by AdrianzMommie at 11:33 AM on Apr. 16, 2011
If you are concerned about it talk to a lawyer a lot of lawyers will do a consultation for free and may be able to give you some insight on what to do legally to protect yourself and baby. Is he paying any of the cost of your pregnancy, has he said he will pay child support? If not then I would feel that since you are "just the incubator" then he is just the "sperm donor".
Answer by michcous at 11:34 AM on Apr. 16, 2011
Answer by BubbaLuva at 2:10 PM on Apr. 16, 2011
Answer by Ms.Gwen at 3:52 PM on Apr. 16, 2011