I am seperated and share 50/50 custody with my 2 kids father. I have a 2 yeear old daughter and 4 year old son, they spend a week with me and a week with their father. I spent 7 years with their dad and when our son was born he told me over and over that he will never love another child like he loves our son. Than our daughter came along, and he always refred to her as "little girl" and never spent time with her, bonded with her or treated her like he did our new born son when he was born. All things I lket go when we were together because she had me!! Now that we are seperated and they do a week to week schedual with us I am noticing our son is showing up in nice new clothes and looking sharp while she is in old hand me down stained clothes. Even in the clothes that are clearly passed down from our son(when we seperated I moved out, he kept our house and majority of our belongings) I truely thought that once he met a girl things would change with our daughter but it seems as if things have gotten worse. Also when she shows up it is clear that someone has "attempted" to trim her bangs and has hacked at tham making them look terrible.
I understand she is only 2 but in the future I worrie this will effect her self asteem.
I guess my Q is 2 parts,
1 would you think it be fair to them kids to tell their father I will keep her full time and our son can continue the week to week schedual? and
2 if so how would you aproach the topic?
We started in a VERY negative seperation but things have definately calmed down.
Did she cut her hair herself or did someone else cut it? I've heard quite a few times (and done it myself when I was that age) of kids getting a hold of scissors and whacking their hair off. My childrens hair is extremely important to me and no way in hell would I be okay with anyone doing anything to it other then myself or my husband. And the rest of it, I would have a sit down conversation and just tell him what you are feeling like is happening. Sometimes us parents get caught up and don't realize we are treating one child differently then we are the other(s).
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 2:13 PM on Apr. 16, 2011
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