So, i have a bit of a situation on my hands and i am hoping for some advice. i guess i'll explain a bit, then get to the current stuff. my boyfriend and i have a beautiful son together, but we recently broke up (5 or so months ago). We were together for quite a while and he is really a great person. while we were together though he was distracted sometimes by friends and work and things like that, and i know that he loved me but he didnt show it very well. i should also mention that he is a super good dad and our son thinks he is the greatest thing ever. he was never mean or abusive or anything towards me, just didnt pay enough attention i think.
here is my problem...
now that we are separated he seems like he is really getting his act together and being the person that i needed him to be. it is hard to tell though if he has really grown up and realized how close he is to losing me and my son. he has apologized so many times for how he acted and says that he is so embarrassed and knows what he was doing wrong and would never be that way to me again. i can see in his eyes that he believes it, and it makes me feel safe. he tells me all the time that he loves me and that he wants to be the great boyfriend and dad that i need him to be. i can see my sons face light up when ever he is around, and i sort of feel like smiling when he comes in the room.
i have talked to some of our friends annd they tell me that all he says about me/us is how much he has realized about what he was doing wrong and what he wants to do with his life now and how he wants to be as a person and a boyfriend and dad.
i want to believe him really bad, but i am worried that if we begin to work things out he will go right back to his old ways. i want our family to be together but do you think that it is worth it to try and see what he is really about now? if he is really serious, i know that we would be happy together. he is a good man and a good dad and when he makes me feel good, he makes me feel really good.
Asked by Anonymous at 4:55 PM on Apr. 16, 2011 in Relationships
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