We just learned a little boy in our son's kindergarten was killed in a house fire this weekend. The school called to notify all parents because they will have grief counselors on site. The little boy was in a different class than my son's, so I don't think he knew him very well, but there are only 2 kindergarten classes at the school, so I'm sure they had some interaction occasionally. This is so sad; we are shocked and just not sure how best to proceed.
How would you handle this? Should we explain it to our son before he goes to school Monday? I am thinking of just telling him Monday morning, before he goes to school so he isn't caught totally off guard. Or just telling him right now. I've dealt with lots of loss in my own life, but I struggle with how best to talk to him about it. He is our oldest child, so this is new territory for us. Thanks for any advice you can offer.
Answer by Mommee42boyz at 8:41 PM on Apr. 16, 2011
Answer by jenn4443 at 8:37 PM on Apr. 16, 2011
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Answer by babydolphin718 at 8:39 PM on Apr. 16, 2011
If you think finding out will be better for him to hear coming from you rather than the school councilor, tell him. If he has questions, answer them. He might be afraid of house fires since this is what caused the child's death. Assure him that this does not happen very often and should not happen to him or anyone in his family as you are careful to prevent house fires. At age 6, kids don't have a very good idea about death being permanent, so he may have some strange questions.
Answer by JSD24 at 8:40 PM on Apr. 16, 2011
Answer by Mel30248 at 8:42 PM on Apr. 16, 2011
Answer by MissLoveLyfe at 8:57 PM on Apr. 16, 2011