I'm a parent to two grown kids (20/f and engaged and living on her own and 17/b). I pretty much raised them on my own, and I have to say they are good kids. They are honest, trustworthy, well adjusted and both have goals set for their future. Are they perfect? Not even close, but they do not cause me problems or worry.
I'm living with my boyfriend, who stays over night for his job 2-4 days a week. My boyfriend has a 16 year old daughter (D), and two toddler boys (3 and 4). When I stepped in as the "step parent" my bf told me to raise his children as if they were my own (as he believed I had done a good job with my own children), which I have done until a couple months ago.
"D" has Type I Diabetes. She does not take care of herself, which worries me sick. She lies about her numbers, so now I have to check her numbers on the monitor myself. She refuses to take proper insulin, which only makes matters worse. Her numbers range from 200's up to 500's. Additionally, her school work is unimportant. She is dishonest about her classwork/homework. Thankfully, her dad does check her grades from time to time via the internet...however, he does not bother with her Diabetes anymore.
Dad used to take freedoms away to keep her numbers in check, however, he's given up with this consequence. Her grades are (once again) below average, yet she enjoys freedom to do whatever she wants to do. She does not follow house rules, and dad turns a blind eye.
I have talked with D about her choices and behaivors. She says she knows she's lazy, doesn't care and needs to kick in the pants to do what she's supposed to do...but it never happens.
I'm frustrated beyond belief. I've never been the kind of parent who turns a blind eye when kids are being disrespectful or (even worse) self destructive. Every time I try to talk with dad about this, he shuts me down immediately. He doesn't want to face it.
I could really use some opinions here. I'm open to anything! (I'm going to suggest counseling for dad and I. D is already in counseling and has admitted to lieing to her therapist so she doesn't get lectured.)
Thanks for reading.
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