Yesterday, my fiancee and I went to a marital class. There were total 7 couples. There was this one couple, the girl had to of been 18 but the was guy 22. The girl is 6 months pregnant. She was extremely quiet the entire time. He spoke FOR her most of the time. The teacher even said "No, I want HER to answer." He was very outspoken and very immature and annoying. But he made a lot of comments that made us worried. He said things like, "She don't complain when the paycheck comes!" (about its HER responsibility to do his laundry) And somehow it came up that she did NOT want kids at all. And he kept saying "well she better cuz we gonna have a ton of kids!!" And what got me and knew this was a huge red flag...he said that they don't hang out with anybody because "that's what creates problems" and that she is "happy" staying home all day and doing the housework and not having a job. And he said that for her. She did not say that. He also said "well the only time we talk is when we're trying to figure out what to watch on tv."
We played the newlywed game. For those that don't know...its when the guys go out of the room and the girls answer questions, they come back and try to figure out our answers. And vice versa. For one, he totally cheated and looked at her answers before we came back. And two, one question was "is it okay for him to go out with his guy friends once a week?" Everyone put yes of course because that is HEALTHY. She shyly said no. And he said "nope! We stay home!" And after he said something really bad like hm..i actually forgot. He suddenly popped in something about it's important to have God in your relationship and to go to church. It didnt have anything ot do with what he was saying. Also, my fiancee and I were outside on break and we overhead the guy saying to her "you know I have to go to work after this....you can just sit in the car." She is pregnant. And it was very HOT out.
Well, at the end gor a game, the teacher, me and this other girl went out in the hall and were talking. And we brought up that couple. Before I even finished my sentence the teacher said YES!! I AM SOOO WORRIED ABOUT THAT GIRL!! The teacher and the girl work for a domestic violence thing and they said there were a million red flags. I said I DEF noticed it all too. I really hope she said something to them. Or something. I know you have to be careful about how you approach people like that because it could be very dangerous for that girl.
I don't know these people except for their names. But I wish I could do something for them!!! :( Or her really. Put the guy in jail ha.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:59 PM on Apr. 17, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by loudnproud87 at 11:03 PM on Apr. 17, 2011
Oh wow! I couldn't have been in that room, I would have told him to shutup. I would have done the rude eye rolling and sighing everytime he opened his mouth to speak. Maybe I'm just grouchy tonight, lol. I'm sorry babe, I don't think there is actually anything that you can do. Becoming friends with her sounds out because of what he said about not having anyone around. Just sad.
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