Context: We are immigrants living in a very rich, predominantly white community that 30 years ago we probably won't even be able to live. My daughter is in class with absolute majority of immigrants and poor behaved Americans in school. There is one family in this school that dad is White American and mom is Russian, their daughter in other 1 grade with majority of rich white Americans in. This mom teaches piano and present herself as an intelligent women. My daughter is the only one from my daughter's class who takes music lessons from this lady (all other students come from other classes of this school).
Situation: At the beginning of the year I invited her daughter to play dates (two) and my daughter's birthday. They came and girls played nicely. She, however, did not invite my daughter back stating that she is very busy with her 20 students and the dad taking care of her. Now another lady told us 'so you are not invited to that girl's birthday?' - this way we learned that she did not invited us.
Question: My daughter likes her music lessons, yet I can see that the progress is very slow. Also the recital coming and she chose very simple songs for my daughter to perform and... took her book away (stating that she needs to read something within the book)- I feel that she want that my daughter will practice only at her house and not at home. To me she tells that my daughter doing great and she is very creative. Yet I see other people who took music lessons with her already finished the book even though they took smaller number of lessons. I feel that my daughter faster advancement is low priority for this teacher- she makes sure to show that my immigrant daughter is LOWER on the level than all her other American students ...
My daughter, though, do not like to change and takes any transitions very hard.
So, should I leave the situation as it is, should i find another teacher together with this one, should I abandon recital (in a very beautiful, elite concert space that very influential American family provided to her)- I feel that the teacher, not directly, but tried to show us that may be we do not belong there ...
sigh...What do you think?
Answer by SalemWitchChild at 5:59 AM on Apr. 18, 2011
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Answer by MedicMommy at 6:10 AM on Apr. 18, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 8:11 AM on Apr. 18, 2011
Answer by Dr.Donna at 8:49 AM on Apr. 18, 2011
Answer by iam4you2 at 11:44 PM on Apr. 18, 2011
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