I feel that my relationship is on the rocks... that we are more room mates than a couple, sex buddies than friends. So i did what I thought was a good idea; called a time out for sex. I wanted to go back to dating, in a way. Courting each other; dinner, movie, undivided attention for each other.
I called this about a month ago. Now, we havent had sex as often as usual, but at least once a week, he gets it. I'm not sure what to think, really. Like two nights ago, he kept trying to get some; it took like 30 minutes of me pulling his hands off of me, telling him no til he got the picture. Then last night, he kept doing it until i gave in. dont get me wrong- it wasnt rape. He put me in the mood, but i dont want that! during our month "break"- we havent even gone out on a DATE! our relationship is how it was before, just without really seeing each other since we're so busy and when we do- to me, its like his mind is just all about sex! i know for guys, sex is how they show love, show their appreciation, etc... But damn- why cant i get a a few weeks without being peer pressured into having sex?
ETA: I'm not saying "hey, lets date so we can have sex". or using sex in any way really. I feel like i'm being used for sex only- and thats what our relationship is all about on his side. its like if i take out the sex, would he bother seeing me? Dont know b/c anytime he does see me- he's trying to get it. I feel like i do a lot for us/in our relationship. Maybe not huge things, but the small ones; i drive him to work, pick him up, if he forgets his lunch, i'll bring it to him, i've ask for movie nights at home- but it either ends in him trying for sex mid-movie, or the movie doesnt even happen.
i just want to feel important to him, and i'm not getting it. last night, i needed him and he decided boys night out was better (boys night out can happen ANY night).... i'd like to also be the chaser in the relationship (sexually pinning him down, kissing on him, etc)- but how can i do that when he's trying to get some every time he's around?! and i dont want to do that when i feel like our relationship is kinda crappy; i feel like i'm just being used for sex- then i sell myself out for sex? i dont think i can do that. (i have tried having sex, to get that emotion/closeness back- but in the end, i just feel like i'm a $2.00 hooker, which makes it worse. if i wanted just a sex buddy, i'd get it and stop wasting my time/energy/finances on him)Answer Question
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