Answer by elizabr at 9:44 AM on Apr. 19, 2011
Answer by NannyB. at 9:49 AM on Apr. 19, 2011
I can see wanting to keep it together for the kids since neither of you have a legal right to visitation of the others child. Have you thought about drawing up a list of responsibilities and splitting it in half? Than one of you take the couch or the guest room depending on your situation. Once you are living as roommates and not a couple you can start the dating process over. My husband and I did this and it was a real eye opener. I knew when we where having troubles what he was doing wrong, but I did not see how badly I was messing up too. We are no longer roommates but back to being a couple and a very happy one at that.
Answer by Anonymous at 9:51 AM on Apr. 19, 2011
Answer by flipper4u21 at 12:08 PM on Apr. 19, 2011
Have you thought about taking a vacation? I know that helped us. He went off on a 4 day scuba trip and came home to a date. I did not feel like doing it, but I knew I had to start because he wouldn't. Than he realized he was not wooing me (because I asked him while we ate what was the most special thing he thought he had done for me) once he looked back and realized he had not even made my favorite dinner and sent the kids to bed early in the last year he really started to shape up. I know it sounds silly but me sleeping on the couch helped save us. Because when we did get back together there was no animosity that took place in our bed so it was not strange to be back in bed with him. I do not know if that is just me or not but I really think if we had slept in the same bed that whole year we where basically separated it would have made it harder to retake that part of our relationship. --signed first anon
Answer by Anonymous at 3:10 PM on Apr. 19, 2011