My hubby and I just bought a house. It is our first home and it took us a long time to save money for. We work very hard outside of the home to have it, and work even harder on the house itself to make it just the way we want it.
When we have people over, we expect their kids to follow OUR house rules. This is particularly in the case of my sister and her three kids. Her oldest is 7, and he will rip off wallpaper, pick off plaster on the walls, break pictures, rip cutains ( and rods) out of the walls, and in many ways completely destroy the house. Her second is mentally challenged and is 6. She draws on walls, poops on the floor, trows food, licks the food put out for general consumption (like a bowl of chips ) and put the licked chips back into the communal bowl, and will strip naked and sit in the bathtub and wait for someone to give her a bath. The youngest, who is 3 is so loud you can hear her talking voice when you have shooting range hearing protection on. She screams for hours, throws violent, wall denting tantrums, and will spit food out onto the floor if she doesn't like it. All of them are rude, loud, and destructive in more ways than mentioned, but it would take a year to write it all down.
We have made up a list of rules for our house for our kids to follow and for others to follow when they come over. The first time we had my sister's kids over, we explained the rules so they were understood, and waited for all Hell to break loose. The first thing that happened was the oldest shoved my curio cabinet, almost knocking it over on purpose. It is full of glass and breakable objects that are very specail, like our wedding cake topper. His mother, my sister, didn't even have him apologize. The whole day was like that, me monitoring the middle and youngest, and my husband monitoring the oldest. Before the day was half over, we sat my sister down and told her all the rules they had broken, how many times we had warned them, and that we were done. We told her to take her kids and get them out of our house. She was all offended, even though she had seen everything they had done. She never yelled at them, punished them, gave them a talking to, nothing. She watched as we tried to protect our house from them and acted as though it were a great big joke. She kept saying "Wait until your kids get bigger and they start breaking all your stuff. Then you won't be so anal." She honestly thought we were being unreasonable about the way her kids were acting in our home.
Our kids are 1 and 2 and very gentle, well behaved babies. They are growing up with boundries and rules, and that is what is good for them. After my sister left, my husband and I talked and we decided to tell her she was no longer allowed at our house until she got control of her kids. Most of my siblings are on our side, but my parents think we should just have put everything we don't want broken away, taken down the curtains, and hidden everything we didn't want them to break. They do this every time my sister goes there, and I'm not doing that in MY house. It's our house, our rules, and I don't want her kids ( or her) wrecking it. We worked way to hard for it.
So ladies, what would you do?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:16 PM on Apr. 19, 2011 in Relationships
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