DH and I have been together for going on 18 years. The first 8 years we lived in the same general location as his sister and the last 10 years we have lived in the same general location as his parents. Since my brother and I moved out of the house, my parents no longer celebrate Thanksgiving.
So for those first 8 years, DH's sister would invite us and his parents over for dinner and we'd come and enjoy the day. Then the last 10 years, DH's parents would invite us and his sister's family to their house and we'd come and enjoy the day. Thinking back now I just figure they thought "have it where the most family lives...?" During all this time, since they were always the ones doing it and inviting everyone over, we never had Thanksgiving dinner at our house.
Well, at the dinner table last Thanksgiving MIL looked right at me and with pure seriousness stated "We're having dinner at your house next year." Taken a little aback, I just said, "Okay, sure." Of course, then I start to feel horrible that we've been "mooching" off them for all these years.
But now that time has passed, I'm starting to get irritated by it. I mean, they invited us each year...it's not like we just showed up without invitation. And MIL might as well have demanded that we host this year without any previous talk or hints or anything to let us know she wanted us to it all. I find that highly inappropriate to make such a demand...this isn't Sunday dinner, this is Thanksgiving dinner for cripe's sake!. Plus, I'm not much of a cook...mostly from the box, whereas they are more "from scratch" type people, so they wouldn't even like the Thanksgiving dinner that I would make, so I'm also feeling self-conscious about it. And the more I think about it, the more irritated I get...
Maybe she was just feeling overwhelmed at that moment when she said it. But she could've said it with a smile! I'm not sure what to make of it. It wasn't nice for her to be that way. You're right, it's not like you just randomly showed up. You've got some time, lol, like7 months to think about it. If you really don't want to have it at your house and you're not into cooking anyway, don't. Alternately,offer frozen turkey dinners. Buy some day (or 2) old bread for good measure, cheapy paper plates and plastic utensils (which hey, I don't have a problem with). Bring out a few kiddy tables and line them up as buffet to the microwave. LOL. Most likely if your in-laws are the way they are, you wouldn't need to worry about Thanksgiving dinner at your house again.
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LOL LOL!!! CookieMom108 :-)
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